Eleven years ago, my life changed forever when I became a father. It was something I had always wanted. In fact, I dreamed about it. Maybe it was because I came from a “broken home” or because I never had father who was involved: I don’t know. But I looked forward to fatherhood and was thrilled when the day finally came. A short few months later, however, I felt like our world had been flipped upside down. After a lengthy struggle, my wife was diagnosed with postpartum depression (PPD); more specifically, postpartum obsessive-compulsive disorder.
My wife and I both felt totally unprepared for the experience and the diagnosis. No healthcare professional had explained postpartum depression or any similar conditions to us, which was surprising given the severity of the situation. I also found that we weren’t alone. Several others had similar (and horrible) experiences. I decided that experience of being totally blindsided by PPD would never happen to us again. Next time, we would be prepared.
As an academic, I did what I know how to do: plunged myself into the scholarly literature on perinatal mental health to both understand and heal my experience. I couldn’t consume enough and read everything I could get my hands on. Hidden within the broad spectrum of perinatal studies, I uncovered a brief mention of postpartum depression in fathers. I had never even considered the possibility that men could suffer from postpartum depression. I was surprised, but I also felt sadness and remorse. Despite being a father, a family scholar, and a family treatment professional, I neglected to consider how the transition to parenthood affects fathers. Was it simply an oversight? Or have we all been conditioned to focus solely on mothers during pregnancy, and as a result we forget how stressful and overwhelming the experience can be for fathers? Is it the gender stereotypes and expectations of stoic, non-emotional, and uninvolved fathers? Is that why we give so little thought to the mental health of fathers?
To be honest, it is probably a little of all these things. A subsequent literature review of all of the articles on perinatal mental health I conducted shortly thereafter revealed little to nothing on men’s experiences with PPD, miscarriage, infertility, or topics associated with the transition to parenthood. Paternal PPD, a significant relational issue for both couples and families, has been recognized since 2006, yet little has been written about this topic to guide systemic therapists in their assessment, recognition, and treatment of this condition. For example, looking briefly at five well-respected journals in our field, within an estimated 2,800 articles over the past 15 years, just two of those have been on the topic of postpartum depression in mothers and only one has covered postpartum depression in fathers (Eddy, 2022). The lack of attention given to fathers and their well-being in our scholarship as a field unintentionally communicates a lack of value in fathers as both partners and parents. What does our lack of attention say about such an important moment in father’s lives? What does it say about the way we value fathers? One could easily surmise that we don’t care all that much about fathers, especially new fathers.
My professional experiences also confirmed what I was reading. The fathers in my research, who describe their experiences in ways that broke my heart and led me to tears, stood in stark contrast to comments at professional conferences where many noted how “skeptical” they are of this topic and dismiss its reality. My publication attempts didn’t fare any better: in many cases, my submissions could not get past the editor’s desk into the hand of reviewers, receiving comments that the topic wasn’t systemic or wasn’t a real issue. But I kept trying. I felt responsible to share the father’s experiences from my research, so I gave publication another attempt. I searched for journals that regularly published about fathers, which was difficult to find. To my relief, the manuscript was finally accepted (Eddy et al., 2019). Tears filled my eyes. Someone finally cared! These fathers’ experience would be heard.
What came after made it worth all the heartache. The article was published and the media relations specialist at my university highlighted it in the weekly newsletter. And people were excited about it. People cared. It was one of the most widely read articles the journal published that year. During the next year, I was interviewed numerous times, participated in podcasts about the article, and guest lectured on the topic in various forums. But the most rewarding part was random emails from fathers who had read the article or listened to the podcast. These fathers now better understood what they had experienced, they had something to call it, something that validated their experience, and they started sharing the article and their experience with others. Those emails give me the fuel to push through any difficulty in publishing or spreading the research.
Three years ago, I wrote in this magazine (Eddy & Hess, 2018) about how CFTs are the best group equipped to treat PPD, because we are. I still believe that. The need is real and cannot be understated. Almost 3.8 million children were born in the United States last year (Centers for Disease Control; CDC, 2021). Statistically, 15% of those mothers and 10% of those fathers will suffer from PPD (Leung, Letourneau, Giesbrecht, Ntanda, & Hart, 2017). To put those numbers in perspective, that’s just shy of 1 million families who will be impacted by PPD. In these families, we are likely to see insecure attachment between parent and child, increased substance use in fathers, emotional and physical abuse within the family, increased affairs and divorces, and several instances where a parent dies by suicide or kills their baby. Yeah, those stories we see on the news where a parent drowns their newborn baby, that’s untreated postpartum depression that has escalated to postpartum psychosis. I’m sure a few readers will wince when reading some of these things, but that’s the reality and sometimes we shouldn’t be shielded from it. As couple and family therapists, we are uniquely positioned to address this. We have a responsibility to not dismiss this population. To dismiss the experience or even the potential of PPD in men is tantamount to dismissing fathers themselves. As a field, we must do much better in educating and training clinicians about postpartum depression. There are people relying on us to do so, and they deserve our attention.
In this piece, I argue that PPD in men is a systemic issue. It affects their individual selves, their relationships, and their attachment to their children. The losses and issues men experience as a result of PPD are incalculable and must be better addressed by relational specialists. As CFTs, we have unique training and a variety of outlets to finally shine the light on mental health and fathers transitioning to parenthood. Here are a few suggestions I have on how CFT can take the lead on this important topic.
1. CFT journal editors should consider a special edition on postpartum families in a CFT journal. I have no doubt there are clinicians who share my concern for this population, but are uncertain where to begin or how to help these families. A special edition on postpartum families would give those families the attention and spotlight they deserve, as well as provide clinicians with information on how to recognize, assess, and systemically treat PPD.
2. Create specialized trainings on perinatal mental health at our yearly conferences. These conferences are well attended, provide cutting edge research, and are an ideal forum to spread this valuable information.
3. Curriculum on treating postpartum families in our CFT training programs. There are several courses that this information would fit into quite well, such as a diagnosis, couple’s therapy, families across the lifespan, or a medical family therapy course. At UNLV, I have included material into both undergraduate and graduate level courses and have found students show great interest in the topic. In fact, many of our graduate students choose community internship sites that provide them with the opportunity to work with postpartum families.
4. Collaboration with healthcare providers is essential. Healthcare providers such as obstetricians and pediatricians regularly come into contact with new parents. During these appointments they often assess for PPD, but their solution is usually medication based. Many patients are hesitant about taking medication or prefer therapy. As CFT’s, we need to establish relationships with healthcare providers so we can be an additional resource for clients.
It is my hope that the CFT field can use this information to forge a strong emphasis, more than any other mental health profession, on supporting postpartum families, both clinically and in research. We all know someone who has suffered with postpartum depression, even if we aren’t aware of it. No field is adequately addressing the complex needs of postpartum families. It’s time for systemic therapists to change that.
Have we all been conditioned to focus solely on mothers during pregnancy, and as a result we forget how stressful and overwhelming the experience can be for fathers?

Brandon Eddy, PhD, is an AAMFT Professional Member holding the Approved Supervisor designation, and an assistant professor and internship coordinator in the Couple and Family Therapy Program at the University of Nevada Las Vegas (UNLV). He received his PhD in Couple, Marriage, and Family Therapy from Texas Tech University and received his master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Nebraska-Lincoln. Eddy’s research agenda focuses on the transition to parenthood with an emphasis in postpartum depression, miscarriage, and infertility. He also specializes in helping families with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Eddy is a member of the Solution Focused Brief Therapy Association (SFBTA), and Postpartum Support International (PSI). brandon.eddy@unlv.edu
REFERENCES
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2021). Births and natality. Retrieved from https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/births.htm
Eddy, B. P. (2022). A meta-analysis of paternal postpartum depression research in couple and family therapy. [Manuscript in preparation].
Eddy, B. P., & Hess, A. D. (May/June, 2018). When elation turns into disaster: What MFTs need to know about postpartum depression. Family Therapy Magazine, 18(3), 99-101.
Eddy, B. P., Poll, V., Whiting, J., & Clevesy, M. (2019). Forgotten fathers: Postpartum depression in men. Journal of Family Issues, 40(8), 1001-1017.
Leung, B. M., Letourneau, N. L., Giesbrecht, G. F., Ntanda, H., & Hart, M. (2017). Predictors of postpartum depression in partnered mothers and fathers from a longitudinal cohort. Community Mental Health Journal, 53(4), 420-431.
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