SPECIAL TO THIS ISSUE

To the Class of 2020

 

Late one night before this was due, I paused for a
moment to process what the last two years have put me through.
Outside, police sirens blared, and though I was angry, my
mind I knew I must calm in order to clearly make this poem
tell all

My first semester was an adjustment, that much is
true –
the workload just increasingly grew.
As we finished our last exam, we headed out for a beer,
a toast,
we truly did cheer!

As we crowded the bar, we ate and drank.
It was our first semester,
it was over.
I, am among my people,
I thought
Feeling closer than ever.

But what I recall the most, from that day
was just how loud we were.
All of us
eager to be heard.
One
over the
Other.

I think it’s ironic to see
just how loud we can be
when the last 18 months were
absolute
taciturnity.

As I write these lines, I am not holding
a grudge.
I think I was just angry
because for the last two years
I felt like I was going
crazy.

I think it first started when you all
sat in silence
but not the kind we were taught is
helpful to clients.
I know you all were
tired of
“making everything about race,”
but would it really have been
so bad
to allow this
first-gen to take up some space?

I realize your white
privilege went unchecked
in the joke of a class we called
“culture and diversity” so I guess
it excuses
your silence in group therapy.

Since this is my time for sharing
I’ll do what so many of you
didn’t, be vulnerable and share
a secret I’m carrying.

When month after month
the stressors did pile
I stopped to consider
if this
all was worthwhile.

So taking a step back, I
put things into perspective. I
remembered who I was
and that I have a purpose.
If I have learned anything, is that I am resilient;

And, because as clinicians,
we do not operate alone,
I leave you all with a TINY note.

There’s no such thing as comfortably uncomfortable.
It takes courage, and bravery to learn and unlearn what it really means
to check your privilege.
To not do so could be harmful.
Because, if these last three weeks have shown us anything,
it is that …
that silence,
the same one you sat in,
could cost the life of a Human Being.


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Thank You

AAMFT members, the Board of Directors, and staff demonstrated dedication to quickly and effectively respond to the pandemic and racial injustices. Both issues will endure, and I am very confident that AAMFT, with assistance from its outstanding members, will continue to admirably respond. I offer my sincerest gratitude to everyone for helping to make AAMFT a true leader within the field of marriage and family therapy.
Tracy Todd, CEO