July / August 2023 Volume 22, No. 4

Consensual Non-Monogamy and Attachment Styles

Marriage and family therapists (MFTs) have a unique skillset to manage complex relationships between client constellations, a skill which is essential for working with people in consensual non-monogamous relationships (CNMRs). With around 5% of the population in the U.S. being involved in a CNMR (Ka et al., 2022) and sexual minorities being more likely to [...]

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July / August 2023 Volume 22, No. 4

The Power of Coming “Out”: Creating Safe Spaces for Young People to be Themselves

Recently, I had the pleasure and privilege of a teenager coming out to me as gay. The process of this discovery was a long one. He disclosed to me that he had seen a movie, Call Me By Your Name, that he found arousing. We had a long conversation about sexuality and how it falls [...]

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May / June 2023 Volume 22, No. 3

Part 2 Working with the Sexual Cycle in Couples Therapy: Who, What, When, Where, Why, and How

Emotional and Sexual Cycles & Attachment Styles In our first article, What Are Sexual Cycles and Why Work With Them, we presented an overview as an introduction to help couple clinicians work with the sexual cycle as intently as with the emotional cycle, and to forge the strongest bond in couples’ bodies, minds, and hearts. [...]

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May / June 2023 Volume 22, No. 3

Did You Marry Your Sibling?

Perhaps you’ve never thought of it, but if siblings are relatively close in age, childhood was their first experience of living with someone of the same generation. In fact, the early childhood sibling relationship could be considered a laboratory for all subsequent (adult) relationships. Did they learn to fight cleanly, or did they counter-attack, withdraw, [...]

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March / April 2023 Volume 22, No. 2

Part 1 Working with the Sexual Cycle in Couples Therapy: Who, What, When, Where, Why, and How

What Are Sexual Cycles and Why Work With Them? In this article, we want to help couple clinicians work with the sexual cycle as intently as with the emotional cycle, to forge the strongest bond in couples’ bodies, minds, and hearts. When we fall in love, we all ache to be loved deeply and desired [...]

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March / April 2023 Volume 22, No. 2

Benefits and Risks: The TikTok Phenomenon

Marriage and family therapists (MFTs) are uniquely positioned to assess interactions between members of a system. As clinicians, we are trained to recognize the influence of parts of the client system that may never enter the therapy room and include them in our therapeutic equations. An evolving systemic member in absentia resides not in the [...]

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January / February 2023 Volume 22, No. 1

What’s in a Name?: The Power of Professional Pronouns

One of the primary tools that we have in our clinical, supervisory, and educational relationships is our ability to share language and meaning with each other. The power of words is not a new idea. Indeed, in the field of psychotherapy it is as old as psychoanalytic thinking and systemic practice. We see it discussed [...]

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January / February 2023 Volume 22, No. 1

Integrating EMDR and EFT in Couple Therapy

As much as I’ve loved Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy and revolved my clinical practice around it, it has always felt like it has had one major short-coming; it has primarily been practiced as an individual therapy (Capps, 2006; Linder, 2020; Linder et al., 2021; Linder et al., 2022; Marich, 2011; Parnell, 2010; [...]

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January / February 2023 Volume 22, No. 1

Myths About Marriage

There are many common misconceptions about what happens in marriage—myths that never come true—and behaviors flow from those myths that harm the couple and their relationship, leaving them unhappy and dissatisfied. Statistics suggest that "happily ever after" occurs no more than 50% of the time (Cole & Broussard, 2006), considering how many couples' divorce. Is [...]

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January / February 2023 Volume 22, No. 1

Systemic Supervision

Systemic thinking is understanding and exploring the intricacies of an individual and bearing in mind how we impact each other through our interactions and behaviors. Applying this to therapy and supervision can be seen through acknowledging differences in belief systems, attitudes, and approaches to life (Lee & Nelson, 2022). Clinical supervision focuses on increasing a [...]

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