July 2026

Temperament: An Important Key to Understanding Oneself and One’s Relationships

Most people know the word temperament, but not really what it means. We’re born with nine different temperament traits, and they range from low activity to high activity. There is no bad trait; all of our qualities can be helpful or problematic depending on the circumstances and how we use them. Our personalities are made [...]

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July 2026

Clinical Approaches to Psychotherapy: Distinctive Features, Common Ground

Because there is so much confusion about the multitude of modalities and differences among clinicians providing psychotherapy, the following will briefly describe some common approaches, rooted in psychoanalytic origins, with a focus on the unique contributions of the systemic perspective of marriage and family therapy training. This will also describe some distinctive features of the [...]

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July 2026

Turning Down the Heat at Home: How Family Mediation Helps Resolve Conflict Before It Breaks Relationships

Adult siblings not speaking, parents and children at odds, tensions rising over decisions that feel impossible to agree on. Conversations turn into arguments. Small issues become symbolic of something bigger. Everyone feels misunderstood. And eventually, someone mentions lawyers. Family conflict rarely starts with a single issue. More often, it builds slowly during periods of transition—when [...]

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July 2026

From Shadows to Strength: Exploring Family, Relationships, Self, and the Making of the Therapist

Friedrich Nietzsche once said, “Family love is messy, clinging, and an annoying repetitive pattern, like bad wallpaper.” My family has carried patterns as ugly as bad wallpaper, including intergenerational scripts of anger, estrangement, and survivalism that repeated themselves with paralyzing predictability. But like wallpaper, patterns can be stripped away and replaced with something new, something [...]

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April 2026

Optimizing MFT Professional Socialization Development: Using the 4C Assessment Model in Supervision

Supervision is a crucial aspect of the development of competent, ethical marriage and family therapy (MFT) professionals providing quality client care in practice. Supervision is an ongoing professional relationship focusing on MFT clinical skills development, often including strengthening systemic thinking through case conceptualization, teaching and supporting clinicians’ use of systemic models and interventions in their [...]

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April 2026

High-Conflict Communication in Blended Families: Helping Everyone Feel Heard Without Escalating Conflict

After a divorce or separation, clients can feel as though everything is a fight. It isn’t that they are high-conflict people. More often, they have developed a pattern of communication in which conflict is expected before the conversation even begins. Now add the complexities of a second relationship and additional children, and the dynamics of [...]

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January / February 2026

Friendship, Partnership, and Love Affair: Helping Couples Navigate the Differences so They Can Thrive Together

I see a committed relationship as having three aspects: friendship, business partnership, and love affair. Friendship is liking/respecting/enjoying a partnership, enjoying time and activities together, and, hopefully, having adventures. Business partnership is about logistics running a household (shopping, cleaning, cooking, managing money, cars, etc.), and parenting, whether that’s children and/or pets. A love affair is [...]

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January / February 2026

When Family Therapists Go Back Home to Their Families: Notes from an Autoethnographic Practice

Family therapists can spend a lifetime studying theories about family patterns, intergenerational communication, recursive loops, and the dance between closeness and separateness, to name a few. During our training, we are taught to map triangles, track emotional processes across decades, and listen for the stories that shape a person’s sense of personhood. And yet, family [...]

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November / December 2025 Volume 25, No. 6

Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy: What Are We Fit For?

This question has been at the forefront of my mind as I began my job search during the final semester of my Master’s program in Marriage and Family Therapy, where I graduated with a CGPA of 3.97 from a COAMFTE-accredited program at a popular New York–based university. The program offered more than academic excellence—it fostered [...]

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November / December 2025 Volume 25, No. 6

“Over Advocacy”: Fighting for Trans Rights in the Face of Erasure

“They are trying to erase us.” This is the notion those of us in the queer community have felt since Donald Trump’s inauguration. Recently, the National Park Service website changed the page regarding the Stonewall uprising—a historic site where the LGBTQ+ community members came together to fight injustice in the 60s. The site was altered [...]

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