August 2026

When Safety Isn’t Enough: What Sexual Disconnection Reveals About Nervous System Sequencing in Couples

Many MFTs have had this experience: a couple completes a significant phase of therapy feeling more emotionally connected than they have in years. However, their sexual relationship remains flat, contracted, or absent. Sensate focus exercises are assigned, or a sex therapy referral is made. Progress stalls. The question worth asking is not what is wrong [...]

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August 2026

Women’s Health and the Absence of Relational Care. Period.

Recently, there has been a notable shift in public attention toward women's health. Conditions that were once not en vogue (e.g., perimenopause, hormonal health, reproductive pain, etc.) have begun moving into mainstream visibility. Dialogue about women's health is carried by social media, celebrity disclosures, and a growing cultural willingness to name what was previously left [...]

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August 2026

For the Joy of Working with Children

I have heard through the grapevine that many MFTs are hesitant to work with kids. That’s understandable. In my training, there was little in the way of a developmental psychology focus. When my internship supervisor at Jewish Family Services in Stamford, Connecticut, handed me a file about Sandplay, because I was working with youngsters whose [...]

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April 2026

The Space Between Us: A Systemic Approach to Relational Endings

Relational endings might be one of the experiences that can reveal the most vulnerable parts of ourselves—ruptured stories collapsed into an idea of what could have been. In our capacity as systemic practitioners, we get to listen to several stories of longing: romantic relationships that have dissolved without notice, friendships that no longer hold, family [...]

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April 2026

Closing the Gap Between Knowing and Doing: AI Avatars in MFT Training

A graduate student begins a session with a couple. One partner does most of the talking. The other gives short, brief answers. Inside of two minutes, the talkative partner keeps pressing the student to take their side, and the student has to decide, right then, whether to follow their lead or turn toward the quieter [...]

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April 2026

When the Bedroom Becomes a Battleground: Treating Sleep Anxiety in Couple Therapy

Shelly tried everything. Melatonin. White noise. Blackout curtains. A sleep tracker that glared at her from the nightstand like a Cheshire cat. By the time she started seeing me, she had not slept more than four hours a night for three years; and her marriage was quietly unraveling. Her husband, Jared, had decamped to the [...]

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April 2026

Yours, Mine, and Ours: Helping Couples Organize Money

There is a question most therapists rarely think to ask, yet the answer can open the door to some of the most revealing clinical conversations: How do you and your partner actually organize your money? Not “Do you fight about money?” That question is common enough. This one is more specific: Do you pool everything, [...]

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April 2026

Being a Positive Advocate When an Elder Needs Hospital Care

A large part of my work with caregivers has involved helping them learn how to be effective advocates when an elder requires hospital care. Advocacy refers to the actions you take to support the elder so they receive the best possible care and outcomes. Ideally, the advocate is also the elder’s Power of Attorney for [...]

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April 2026

How MFTs Can Improve Client Outcomes with Measurement-Based Care

The benefits of couple and family therapy are clear: systemic interventions are generally effective at increasing relationship satisfaction, improving communication, bolstering individual mental health, and reducing problematic behaviors (Wittenborn & Holtrop, 2021). But not every client leaves therapy with the improvement they hope for. Surprisingly, a substantial number of clients get worse over the course [...]

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April 2026

Navigating New Terrain: Supporting Nonmonogamous Clients

Nonmonogamy (also known as consensual nonmonogamy and ethical nonmonogamy, these are umbrella terms that encompass swinging, polyamory, and other types of nonmonogamy) has moved from the margins toward greater cultural visibility in recent years. Popular media, social networks, and empirical research all reflect rising curiosity about alternative relationship structures. Population surveys suggest that about one [...]

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