Nonmonogamous Therapists Practicing in Their Own Community: Connecting the Code of Ethics

Before we plan a second date, I need to ask you a few questions that might feel strange. Who are your partners, and who are their partners? I am a therapist, and I work with the nonmonogamous community in this city. I am not allowed to tell you who my clients are, so I need [...]

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Healing Over Hostility: Aligning Family Therapy with Structured Dispute Resolution

For decades, marriage and family therapists have worked tirelessly to help couples navigate discernment therapy or conscious uncoupling. They invest months of careful clinical guidance, helping partners establish communication, find clarity, and begin the process of emotional healing. And yet, they’re often forced to watch their hard work get completely dismantled the moment the couple [...]

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Expanding the Influence of Systemic Thinking Around the World

I am a huge fan of systemic thinking and the ability of systemic thinkers to make a difference around the world. One of the foci of AAMFT this year has been to prioritize Eminent Influence. The idea is that we continue to elevate our standing in the world of mental health, and to use our [...]

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The Third Actor in the Room: How AI Is Quietly Changing Therapy

The following article is a follow-up to the recent LinkedIn Live Panel on AI. Dr. Katherine Hertlein answers participant questions. Robert scheduled an individual session to process the latest fight he had with his wife. As one member of a couple I had been seeing for two years, I was well aware of Robert’s pattern [...]

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Not That Kind of Doctor: What a Mass-Casualty Drill Taught Me About First Responders

What a mass-casualty drill taught me about first responders, the families who love them, and the cost of going numb I went into the training thinking the hard part would be the classroom. Three days of FEMA hospital emergency-responder protocols: decontamination sequences, triage categories, and the federal standard of four people per litter. I'm a [...]

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Dostoevsky’s The Adolescent: Wealth, Class, and the Cultivation of a Psychologically Healthy Self – A Systemic Approach to Treatment

In The Adolescent (1875), Fyodor Dostoevsky gives us Arkady Dolgoruky, a young man trying to locate his center of gravity while orbiting a family system organized around wealth, power, and the capricious authority of a charismatic father. Arkady’s psychic and relational life is distorted by a persistent conflation: his father is his father’s money, and [...]

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When Safety Isn’t Enough: What Sexual Disconnection Reveals About Nervous System Sequencing in Couples

Many MFTs have had this experience: a couple completes a significant phase of therapy feeling more emotionally connected than they have in years. However, their sexual relationship remains flat, contracted, or absent. Sensate focus exercises are assigned, or a sex therapy referral is made. Progress stalls. The question worth asking is not what is wrong [...]

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Women’s Health and the Absence of Relational Care. Period.

Recently, there has been a notable shift in public attention toward women's health. Conditions that were once not en vogue (e.g., perimenopause, hormonal health, reproductive pain, etc.) have begun moving into mainstream visibility. Dialogue about women's health is carried by social media, celebrity disclosures, and a growing cultural willingness to name what was previously left [...]

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For the Joy of Working with Children

I have heard through the grapevine that many MFTs are hesitant to work with kids. That’s understandable. In my training, there was little in the way of a developmental psychology focus. When my internship supervisor at Jewish Family Services in Stamford, Connecticut, handed me a file about Sandplay, because I was working with youngsters whose [...]

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