January / February 2022 Volume 21, No. 1

One Size Does Not Fit All in Couple Therapy: The Case for Theory Integration

Couple therapy is a complex and challenging activity even for the most experienced marriage and family therapists (MFTs). There are many models to choose from, and integrating them is not easy for most MFTs who wish to improve their skills in working with couples. Some are attachment based and others emphasize differentiation. Some focus on [...]

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January / February 2022 Volume 21, No. 1

“Forget Me Not”: A Population Silently Begging for Systemic Treatment

Eleven years ago, my life changed forever when I became a father. It was something I had always wanted. In fact, I dreamed about it. Maybe it was because I came from a “broken home” or because I never had father who was involved: I don’t know. But I looked forward to fatherhood and was [...]

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January / February 2022 Volume 21, No. 1

How’s Your Clients’ Sex Life?

We live in a culture that is both sex-obsessed and starving for genuine, loving connection. According to the Journal of the American Medical Association (Laumann, Paik, & Rosen, 1999), an astounding 42% of American women have low libido or desire, pain, and/or elusive orgasms. Many more lack emotional connection with their lovers. This is a [...]

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November / December 2021 Volume 20, No. 6

Healing Systems: Therapy with Mandated Clients

Mandated clients are often navigating many systems at once. These systems include their families, their schools, the Department of Juvenile Justice (DJJ)/Juvenile Services Department (JSD), etc. In addition to navigating multiple systems, mandated clients may be experiencing levels of trauma (or Adverse Childhood Experiences – “ACEs”), individually or within the family system. These traumatic experiences [...]

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September / October 2021 Volume 20, No. 5

Reflection On My Brother’s Death & The Blessing of Guilt:

For all who have had to say their goodbye to a loved one during the COVID-19 pandemic and have not been able to say “good-bye.” My brother, Richard (“Rick”), died on December 15, 2020, during the wave of the COVID-19 pandemic. I was told that Rick contracted and died from “double-pneumonia,” but I have my [...]

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September / October 2021 Volume 20, No. 5

The Special Needs Marriage

My wife and I catapulted into the special needs world with the birth of our son, Kaydan, who was born with Down syndrome. As a clinician and an Army chaplain, I thought I was well equipped for what lay ahead, but was mortified when I learned that many of the marriages with special needs children [...]

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September / October 2021 Volume 20, No. 5

The Motivation Behind Problematic Online Gaming

A portion of the U.S. population is choosing online games as a form of recreation and, consequently, develop unhealthy preoccupations with activities on the internet. Survey results released from the Pew Research Center reveal American adults and youth are choosing computer games as a form of recreation at rates between 48% and 77% (Duggan, 2015). [...]

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July / August 2021 Volume 20, No. 4

Relationship Rebalancing: A New Framework for Effective Communication

In 2020, life as we knew it was turned upside down by COVID-19. Everyone, worldwide, has felt at least somewhat off balance. Relationships have been especially impacted as the sense of normalcy, established routines, rituals, and reasonable certainty about the future were disrupted The equilibrium that allowed people to feel stable and connected to others [...]

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July / August 2021 Volume 20, No. 4

In Defense of (Very) Long-term Therapy

The truth may be that time, and lots of it, is a necessary condition for the healing of broad and very deep wounds from childhood. Time may be such an essential part of the therapeutic process for these particular clients that it needs to be understood in an entirely new way—particularly when much of what [...]

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July / August 2021 Volume 20, No. 4

Couple Connectedness and COVID-19

Relational problems exacerbated by COVID-19: The COVID-19 pandemic has resulted in unprecedented global morbidity and mortality, with mental health effects being an increasing concern, and specific threats within the family context (Prime & Wade, 2020). During the pandemic, challenges related to social disruption, such as financial instability, caregiving pressure, and confinement-related stress, pose a serious [...]

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